It is very common to have a chronic illness oneself or know someone who does. It is difficult to cope with the illness itself, and to learn how to manage symptoms and develop a certain level of acceptance. Being chronically ill can bring up all kinds of emotions, including grief, depression, anxiety, fear and even guilt.
It is important that people with a chronic mental or physical illness have access to continued support and validation of the ups and downs of their experience. They are likely to be experiencing anticipatory grief which is grief for all the things that they will no longer be able to do or have to give up due to increased limitations.
It is said that “Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.” Whether you agree or not, there is value in adopting a positive outlook when faced with a long term illness. Research has borne out that our attitudes do have an affect on our physical wellbeing and can even reduce pain and discomfort.
Chronic illness also affects the people around us. They may not only have to deal with their own mixed emotions regarding the illness and prognosis, but are expected to cope with the emotions of the patient. In addition, they may have to adopt the often significant, patient care responsibilities of daily functioning. They may be asked or expected to devote much time and energy, deducted from their normal responsibilities and lifestyle to the care of the chronically ill person.
Caregiving can be a very isolating experience as there may be no other family member or friend that can offer support and encouragement to the caregiver.
Sometimes therapy can offer the opportunity for someone struggling with a chronic illness and also their caregiver/s to vent their emotions in a safe, supportive environment. It may be an opportunity to heal relationships that have been broken or stressed in some way. The most helpful aspect of participating in a therapeutic relationship is to be able to tell their story without judgement, blame or advice being directed at them.
It is encouraged that anyone coping with a chronic illness as patient or caregiver, secure emotional support. This can be often be obtained by having the courage to reach out to family, friends, group support and individual therapy.